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Have you ever wished you could have a conversation with someone who’s no longer around?

 

I know I have. 

 

What would you say? How would you say it?  Could you make yourself heard? What would the response be? Could you listen? 

 

I’ve been thinking about this a lot ever since I watched All of Us Strangers https://www.allofusstrangersfilm.com at the weekend. This isn’t a review and there’s been so many glowing reviews of it that I don’t need to add to them! I just wanted to highlight it as a beautiful example of how art can move, connect and heal. It made me think of those I have loved and continue to love and for whatever reason are no longer in my life. It made me think of conversations I wished I could have had, unanswered questions, feelings not shared or not spoken of. The slightly nerdy therapist in me thought of all therapeutic techniques and modalities (e.g gestalt, dramatherapy, Pesso Boyden, Family Constellations) that use this idea in their own unique ways to heal.

 

The film and the performances have stayed with me. There was something so true and powerful to me about the 80’s father figure that was so spot on and I don’t even really know why. The tenderness, the innocence and the haunting feeling of loss and loneliness. It is now becoming a rubbish review so I’ll get back to it. After watching it I made a promise to myself to make eye contact with strangers more and strike up conversations in the hope that it might make me and anyone else feel less alone, atleast for that moment. Sometimes this can be excruciatingly difficult and others it can feel more natural. 

 

It also reminded me how important music is and how it can just take you back to a moment in time. How magical is that? All this to say, if you are interested watch the film. And if not, watch a film that’s moved you, or put a song on that always connects you to your feelings. They’ll be something out there for you. Whatever it is it might just remind you of yourself and what’s meaningful to you. 

 

Or maybe write that letter or that script of an imagined conversation. Let out the feelings. Let go of what you’ve been holding on to and notice how you feel. If you can recognise what you need in that moment and honour it. 

 

“Make love your goal” The Power of Love, Frankie Goes to Hollywood https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WtdRv6GT9Zg